Living Alone
For some with Alzheimer’s Dementia who are living alone, medication is not their top priority. It’s not that they are neglectful of their health, but they are often unable to remember when they last took medication. Eventually, they may forget they need medication at all.
Before my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s she lived alone and took several medications daily. One medication was for high blood pressure, and while sitting at her kitchen table one afternoon I noticed the bottle was empty. I picked it up and rolled it around to check the date as I asked Mom if she’d like me to have it refilled before I headed home.
Clearly marked as containing a one-month supply, Mom’s blood pressure medicine hadn’t been refilled in over 3 months. I was appalled, but Mom appeared unconcerned while she asserted that she’d taken one of those pills that very morning. Confused, I couldn’t believe Mom would lie about taking a pill. I had the bottle refilled before I went home that day and purchased a pill management
box at the same time. I decided to monitor Mom’s pill-taking before I returned in a week.
Later I learned that someone with memory-loss can not remember if they’ve taken a pill that day or not. They may lie to save embarrassment or quiet suspicions that they can no longer live alone.
Due to poor judgment, they have no concept of the damage that could occur to their health by skipping medication.
There are multiple reasons why it’s not a good idea for a person with memory-loss to live alone while taking medication:
- They may skip a dose because they can’t remember if they’ve already taken a pill
- They may take multiple doses (over-dose) because they don’t remember if they’ve already taken a pill
- They may have more than one medication to take each day (compounding the problems)
- They may need to take one medication several times a day–They simply Can Not do it!
I tried everything I could think of to help Mom take medication in a sensible manner while she lived alone. Since I visited her almost every other day, it would appear to be a simple task. But some days the appropriate slot in her pill case would be empty, some days 3 slots would be empty, and one day she had removed all the pills and put them back into their respective bottles.
Despite the fact that I phoned Mom every morning, specifically to remind her about taking her medication– Some days she took her pills and some days she didn’t. It took me awhile to accept that fact, but that’s the way it was.
I finally accepted that she could not remember to take her medication and I had to find a different system. This struggle lasted for weeks. I tried a calendar with dates crossed off after pills had been taken. I tried a calendar with pills attached to each day in tiny plastic baggies. I tried a pill dispenser with an alarm and recording. Nope! Nothing worked! Shortly after my battle with Mom and her medication — Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and came to live with me.
We often fear that we’ll be seen as meddling into our parent’s affairs by checking their medications, asking questions about their habits. Yet, if you have a parent or relative with memory-loss you must learn about their medications and if they’re taking them appropriately:
- Are they taking their medicine/the appropriate dosage at the appropriate time
- Are all their prescriptions current and filled/Perhaps you can offer to help with keeping them current
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A few items that may help with Medication
—but not always
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Medcenter Talking Alarm Clock And Medication ReminderMore infoIvation Automatic Pill DispenserMore infoMedCenter Your Minder InteractiveMore info4 Alarm Pill Box w/ Vibration ReminderMore infoMedCenter (70265) 31 Day Pill OrganizerMore infoElectrical Pill Box DispenserMore info
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I never knew there were so many kinds of dispensers. I use a really simple one myself, but someday I may have to get a more complex model — especially if I need to start taking more pills someday.
Barbara, I know, I never realized what a large variety there was until my Mom became ill. And then with Alzheimer’s, none of them worked for her. I had to hide her pills and give them on time as needed.
I recently had to upgrade to a bigger one because of too many pills myself, and I sure don’t like doing that. Guess we should be glad they are available.
Thank you for stopping by,
Sandy