10 Requests from someone with Alzheimer’s – Author Unknown

10 Requests from someone with Alzheimer’s 

Author Unknown

  1. Please be patient with me — Remember that I have an organic brain disease for which I have no control.
  2. Talk to me — Even though I cannot always answer you, I can hear your voice and sometimes comprehend your words.
  3. Be kind to me — For each day of my life is a long and desperate struggle. Your kindness may be the most special and important event of my day.
  4. Consider my feelings — For they are still very much alive within me.
  5. Treat me with dignity and respect — As I would have gladly treated you.
  6. Remember my past — For I was once a healthy, vibrant person full of life, love and laughter with abilities and intelligence.
  7. Remember my present — I am a fearful person who misses my family and home very much.
  8. Remember my future — Though it may seem bleak to you, I am always filled with hope for tomorrow.
  9. Pray for me — For I am a person who lingers in the mists that drift between time and eternity. Your presence may do more for me than any other outreach of compassion you can extend to me.
  10. Love me — The gifts of love you give will be a blessing from which will fill both our lives with light forever



Shoe Laces, Buckles, Snaps and other methods of closure can be an issue for the Alzheimer’s patient. There are so many shoes that are nice looking, comfortable and affordable — Yet without the worry of fasteners. Velcro and Slip-on shoes make getting dressed a Breeze for the Alzheimer’s or Dementia patient. It’s embarrassing enough to ask for help with dressing and showering and other delicate issues of everyday life, anything that can help the Alzheimer’s patient behave independently is a relief for him or her.

Buy shoes that slip-on or have Velcro Closures  — Buy shirts and pants that Slip-on or open to the front. Helping the Alzheimer’s patient to remain independent, removes stress from them and the caregiver as well.









  1. Sarah says

    I have been reading your posts on twitter and cannot thank you enough.
    My 82 year old father has been diagnosed with vascular dementia and
    i am so devastated as he was a very healthy independent man.
    It is do sad to see him in this way. Your posts are extremly educational and helpful
    and i feel like we are not alone.

    Thanks again

    • ~ Sandy says

      Sarah, I certainly understand your feelings. My Mom was similar to your father. She was always independent and totally happy to be living alone and caring for herself. She traveled, visited friends and family and was a jovial, happy person.

      Like you, the saddest thing was to watch as she was robbed of the independence she loved so much. You almost become glad that they don’t have a memory of what is happening to them.

      I’m delighted if my stories and writings have helped in anyway. It’s a difficult road for us, as caregivers, also.

      Take care Sarah, of yourself and your dad!


  2. says

    Great Post. These ten tips are suggestions I always make to family caregivers of individuals with Alzheimer’s disease. Putting them this way however, makes it seem much more valuable.


  3. Jason House says

    Thank you Sandy,

    This is beautiful, apt, and still heart-wrenching for me to read. My Dad passed away nearly three years ago (Nov 19, 2008). I cared for him and tried my best everyday; yet felt that I somehow, sometimes didn’t connect with him as I intended. Thanks for reminding us adult children and caregivers of the brain’s organic limitations. It remains my deepest wish that I was understood and acknowledged by him in those late and most difficult of days.

    All best,

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